Monday, April 20, 2009

Lets get real about Fornication

*Original post by Sister Bint Halal
Living in a society in which people have accepted the un-islamic lifestyle as their way of life has brought immorality at every step. Modesty, shame and honour have no place in the western civilization. Today, Muslims too are increasingly banishing their modesty, regarding which the Holy Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam) said, “Modesty is a part of Iman.”

Amongst the most common of these evils is adultery and fornication. Commiting of adultery is from the category of major sins. The Shari’ah not only prohibits the ultimate evil of adultery, but BY ALL MEANS LEADING TO THIS EVIL ACT. Allah subhana wa ta’ala says in the Holy Qoran, “Do not come near to adultery, indeed it is a shameful deed and an evil way.” (17:32)

In the above verse all the means and ways which leads to adultery are prohibited. This verse is an eloquent expression of the prohibition of the ways and acts which are introductory to adultery.
Imam Bukhari (r.a.) has stated a Hadeeth on the authority of Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhu) that the Holy Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam) said,

“ The adultery of the eyes is evil looks.
The adultery of the tongue is lustful talk.
The adultery of the heart is the evil desire
and in the end the sexual organs testify all this or deny it.”

In another Hadith the Holy Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam) said, “The hands also commit adultery, their adultery is touching, the feet also commit adultery, their adultery is walking towards adultery, the mouth also commits adultery, its adultery is kissing.” (Abu Dawood, Muslim)

“A person who commits adultery does not commit it in the state of Imaan. A person who drinks alcohol does not drink it in the state of Imaan.” (Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawood, Nasai)

“When a person commits adultery, his Imaan comes out from him and it stays like an umbrella over his head; and when he stops committing adultery, his Imaan returns to him.” (Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi, Baihaqi)

The great Mufassir Sheikh Ata Ibn Abi Rabah under the Tafseer of the verse, “It (the Hell) has seven doors,” states, “The most severe of these doors, from the point of grief, heat, punishment and bad smell, is for those people who committed adultery after having knowledge (of it being a sin and Haraam).”

Detrimental Effects of Adultery and Fornication

Adultery/Fornication has six effects; of these three are experienced in this world and the other three in the Hereafter.

In this world:
1. Noor (light) vanishes from the faces of the adulterers.
2. It brings poverty and famine.
3. The life span is reduced.

In the Hereafter:
1. Allah ta’ala subjects the adulterers to His anger.
2. They will be subjected to a strict reckoning on the Day of Judgement.
3. They will be cast into Hell.

We are living in a society where temptations dominate every individual, and the protection is Taqwa (piety), and Taqwa is is acquired through obedience to Allah subhana wa ta’ala and His beloved Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam).

“Whoever gives me the guarantee of safeguarding his tongue and his private parts, I give him the guarantee of Paradise.” (Bukhari)

A person who fights the temptations of youth and fulfils the Commands of Allah ta’ala, he will be protected under the shade of Allah’s Throne (not meant literally) on the Day of Judgement.

Remedy from this Illness

“O groups of youths, whosoever amongst you has the means of getting married, should do so because it lowers the gaze and protects the private parts; and whosoever does not have the ability, should fast, for indeed, it is a protection for him.” (Bukhari)

May Allah subhana wa ta’ala safeguard us from all evils and resurrect us on the Day of Judgement amongst the followers of the Holy Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam) under His Throne. Ameen.
(taken from the article of Sheikh Muhammad Uthman Ghani)

So my fellow Muslims, Im going to break it down even more inshAllah. You know I always have to put my two cents in!

*Warning* I will speak the truth and not sugar coat it, because sugar coating just leads to lame excuses.

This needs to be made clear- any touching (touching that you do on purpose, not bumping into someone by mistake or such) is haram, point blank. There's this little joke that I heard about touching it goes something like this..."Looking leads to talking, talking leads to hugging, hugging leads to kissing, kissing leads to fore play, fore play leads know the rest". I did not receive this joke from a Muslim, so that should be something for us Muslims to really think about since we are "suppose" to be the best of all followers of religions.

So do not think your getting away with anything just because you did not have "actual" sexual intercourse. Stop kidding yourself and saying "Oh we didn't do it do it, we just messed around." ITS THE SAME THING! Sorry I had to point this out due to the fact that there's plenty of people who think that the are not sinning or its not "that bad" because they did not " put the key in the key hole". Any touching is forbidden and it is all sinful. Do not let this society's standards of what is "bad" confuse or stray you away from what Allah subhana wa ta'la was made halal and haram. I understand that sometimes it can be confusing on what is allowed if were not educated in such matters and see those actions as a common thing especially amongst your fellow Muslims. But even if you see your fellow Muslims doing an action, ask yourself if you can tell your parents or anyone that you have respect for what you are doing. Ask yourself if you could be calm confessing to what those actions on the Day of Judgment; I think we all know the answer. So if you had to hide your actions then you know its wrong. And don't follow others in wrongful doing, because they won't be able to take the rap for you when it comes to reality of your sins.

Another reminder for us (myself and all of you): We have prohibitions for a reason, and wallah they are there to protect ourselves. When we don't follow what Allah subhan wa ta'la has prescribed for us we're just harming ourselves. You may not see the injuries immediately but they are going to come sooner or later. Some of us may get off with slight scars and others may have deep wounds from their sins. You have get these scars here in this dunya or you may pay for your sins in the here after. And all of you know that is far way better to pay for your sin here in this life than the next for its way too harsh for us to really grasp. So please do yourself a favor, stay away from sinful acts. You may think that what your doing is fun, and its not harming anyone else, but indeed you are. What you do influences others, point blank, whether you want to be a role model or not you are. People will look to you for advice, will look to you for what is acceptable, and etc. And quite frankly, this is why we have so much finta because people are following those in error and think that its acceptable when its not. It will become easier to do right when we put forth the effort to show others what is right. When you become better on the deen others will follow, and then before you know it you'll be surrounded by others who will make following the deen easier. Be the one to be the role model, take the first step, be the one to make a difference and please Allah!

May Allah continue to guide us on the right path. Ameen

P.S. Following the right path isn't that hard if you really want to achieve true happiness.

Saturday, April 18, 2009

Good Sisters Vs. Bad Sisters

This is a repost with my two cents in it. I had to do it. **my input

GOOD SISTERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

1)HIJABI HOPEFULLs: These are the girls that dont yet wear hijab, jilbaab or niqaab but they are trying to cover up their body and hair but feel really bad about it because know its a big haram ,they respect and love the hijab, and one day hope to become one of us.

We have one thing to say to ya'll…Come Join Us on The Other Side…We promise Its better here

2)SUNNNI HIJABI's-: You've seen'em. The girls who wear correct Hijabi and jilbab, who understand hijab is not just a scarf covering the hair with tight or see through clothes, their hijab is very lose, not see through, not attention calling, no make up, they like Aishea rdhu, hate to be seen by other men and hate, to see other men that are haram for them, [MASHALLAH!]These are the girls love and wear hijab and jilbab and have that look that says to all men and all male strangers"'NO THANKS MATE IM SPECIAL"

"We have nothing but respect for the Fabulous Few. These Hijabis are rare …but then all great things are."

3) NIQAABI HIJABI simply the best!!!!!!!!!!!! modern day Aisha, Khadeejah and fatima's[rdhu] following the exact dress of the wive's of the prophet[pbuh] companions ,strong proud filled with mountains and mountains of self esteem because they are certain and sincere in tawheed and the hereafter

BAD SISTERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

4)ANTI HIJABIS: hates islam changed her named from Aisha to Asia, khadeejah to Clarie, fatima to faye, she drinks alcohol, smokes, swears, eats pork, shows cleavage,wears mini skirts, comits daily zina, celebrates, brithdays, christmas, divali, new year but not eid ,gives charity to christian aid, green peace but not zakat, hates hijab or niqaab or anything islamic

"May Allah guide us and you and us oh sister to be better"

5)CONVERTABLE HALF HIJABI's:- These lovely ladies are the ones caught in the Limbo between Hijab or No Hijab. "to be or not to be" is the question for these girls. With thier Hijab half on thier head and half off…u never know what they will do next! On the bright side though guys dont have to wonder what beauty is hiding beneath those hijabs cuz these half hijabis give everyone a sneak peak 24/7.

"We say to ya'll with nothing but frustration..MAKE UP UR MIND!"

6)CONFUSED NAKED WANNA BE MODEL HIJABI :- They cover their hair properly but show their neck, arms, feet and wear skintight jeans that clearly expose their thighs and behind with short sleeves, capris and the all famous low cut tops.

These girls give other Hijabis a bad name. You might spot one of these "Hijabis" in a group of Ahem! guy "friends". This group of too "friendly" Hijabis do everything a muslim let alone a Hijabi should NOT do.

"We hope none of u fit this description…if u do…we say to u with nothing but love…Respect the Hijab!"

7)HOLLYWOOD OR BOLLYWOOD HIJABI: wears correct clothing loads of haram lipstick, eyeliner, plucks her eyebrows, chisels her teeth, puts lots of haram perfume and wears hig heels alawys hoping to get approached by guys


8)VERY LOUD HIJABI: wears proper hijab but is extremely loud in public and on public transport, always gossiping very loud on the phone or to the very loud hijabis with her, makes you wish you could hide in a shell when you see or hear her

non muslims look at them like "does there faith teach them to be so loud and unrespectable to others" ?

" shhhh sister turn the volume down"

So heres my take on this. I find this a little distasteful in the title of bad sisters. Who are you to call someone a bad sister just because she may not cover up properly? I know sisters who cover up properly and I know sisters who dont. I know a good handful of so called niqaabies who are pretty whorish to say the least. YESSS THEY ARE EVERYWHERE! So what advice are you going to give sisters living in Saudi or any other country where hijab and abaya is a must? Are you going to call them all good? NO! Because they have their share of "Gucci Man Freaky Girls"...the ones you do not want to take home to momma. Yes we should cover up properly (hijab- modest clothing which covers up everything except hands and face *some would exclude feet from having to be covered up). But calling a sister a "bad sister" just based on her clothing makes you in they wrong for doing so.

I will admit clothing can tell a lot about a person, but its not an accurate representation of a person by no means. I know plenty of non-hijabies who are modest than so called hijabies. Theres a lot of Muslims who do not know the correct practice of Islam due to they were never taught Islam properly, which isnt completely their fault for its natural to just follow what you see others do (like family and friends). A lot of culture does play into people's lives. Celebrating those holidays does not make a sister a bad sister for she may not know that in Islam they are not acceptable. Showing some of your hair does not make you a bad sister, in a lot of cultures showing some hair is acceptable, but not acceptable in Islam, and those sisters may not know that. The same goes for the so called "bollywood hijabies".

But I will admit sisters who dress revealing can not blame others for not prejudging them. Its how the world works. People will judge you based on how you look. Its not right but that the way it is. If your wearing tight clothes with your breast hanging out, do you really think people are going to look at you and say "ohh she looks like a respectful Muslim, mashAllah"? I highly doubt it, would you? Its not right for people to think you in in the negative way because of what you wear, but if it is not in accordance with Islam then how can you blame them? But it doesnt not give them the right to talk bad to or about you, all they have the right to do is TRY to guide you.

In number 6) the "CONFUSED NAKED WANNA BE MODEL HIJABI"...ummm...hello! You said it yourself, she's confused! How dare you call a sister a bad sister when you admit that shes confused? How can you call someone to the right path when you're just downing them because they are confused? How about helping cut down their confusion with giving dawah, PROPERLY! You can't get something positive from something that has a down right negative approach.

Being a good sister does not not solely revolve around wearing the hijab, because which many Muslims miss is that hijab is not just the way you dress but its a whole being: a way of life. So just because oh you throw on an abaya and head scarf does not make you a good sister if character is off point, not being modest; which I've seen a lot. None of us are perfect. Some may be better in practice than others, but that does not give you the right to label people. For you dont know whats going on in their lives or why they are doing what they are doing. So lets put some more emphasis on keeping up with our salaahs, how to treat others (behave), and the importance of educating ourselves(reading Quran, fiqh, hadiths, going to lectures, being at the masjid, and etc). Theres plenty of others things that we can focus on. Usually when those other things are in order the way of dressing will follow, because they usually have a better understanding of things.

If you want to give dawah, you have to give the facts and stop putting your input on calling people names. You'll get a far better reaction to it if you state what is hijab, how to wear it properly, why we should wear it, and the benefits of doing so; not naming calling and attacking people.

May Allah continue to guide us on the right path and not let a ounce of pride enter our hearts. Ameen

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