Monday, April 20, 2009

Lets get real about Fornication

*Original post by Sister Bint Halal
Living in a society in which people have accepted the un-islamic lifestyle as their way of life has brought immorality at every step. Modesty, shame and honour have no place in the western civilization. Today, Muslims too are increasingly banishing their modesty, regarding which the Holy Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam) said, “Modesty is a part of Iman.”

Amongst the most common of these evils is adultery and fornication. Commiting of adultery is from the category of major sins. The Shari’ah not only prohibits the ultimate evil of adultery, but BY ALL MEANS LEADING TO THIS EVIL ACT. Allah subhana wa ta’ala says in the Holy Qoran, “Do not come near to adultery, indeed it is a shameful deed and an evil way.” (17:32)

In the above verse all the means and ways which leads to adultery are prohibited. This verse is an eloquent expression of the prohibition of the ways and acts which are introductory to adultery.
Imam Bukhari (r.a.) has stated a Hadeeth on the authority of Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhu) that the Holy Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam) said,

“ The adultery of the eyes is evil looks.
The adultery of the tongue is lustful talk.
The adultery of the heart is the evil desire
and in the end the sexual organs testify all this or deny it.”

In another Hadith the Holy Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam) said, “The hands also commit adultery, their adultery is touching, the feet also commit adultery, their adultery is walking towards adultery, the mouth also commits adultery, its adultery is kissing.” (Abu Dawood, Muslim)

“A person who commits adultery does not commit it in the state of Imaan. A person who drinks alcohol does not drink it in the state of Imaan.” (Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawood, Nasai)

“When a person commits adultery, his Imaan comes out from him and it stays like an umbrella over his head; and when he stops committing adultery, his Imaan returns to him.” (Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi, Baihaqi)

The great Mufassir Sheikh Ata Ibn Abi Rabah under the Tafseer of the verse, “It (the Hell) has seven doors,” states, “The most severe of these doors, from the point of grief, heat, punishment and bad smell, is for those people who committed adultery after having knowledge (of it being a sin and Haraam).”

Detrimental Effects of Adultery and Fornication

Adultery/Fornication has six effects; of these three are experienced in this world and the other three in the Hereafter.

In this world:
1. Noor (light) vanishes from the faces of the adulterers.
2. It brings poverty and famine.
3. The life span is reduced.

In the Hereafter:
1. Allah ta’ala subjects the adulterers to His anger.
2. They will be subjected to a strict reckoning on the Day of Judgement.
3. They will be cast into Hell.

We are living in a society where temptations dominate every individual, and the protection is Taqwa (piety), and Taqwa is is acquired through obedience to Allah subhana wa ta’ala and His beloved Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam).

“Whoever gives me the guarantee of safeguarding his tongue and his private parts, I give him the guarantee of Paradise.” (Bukhari)

A person who fights the temptations of youth and fulfils the Commands of Allah ta’ala, he will be protected under the shade of Allah’s Throne (not meant literally) on the Day of Judgement.

Remedy from this Illness

“O groups of youths, whosoever amongst you has the means of getting married, should do so because it lowers the gaze and protects the private parts; and whosoever does not have the ability, should fast, for indeed, it is a protection for him.” (Bukhari)

May Allah subhana wa ta’ala safeguard us from all evils and resurrect us on the Day of Judgement amongst the followers of the Holy Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam) under His Throne. Ameen.
(taken from the article of Sheikh Muhammad Uthman Ghani)

So my fellow Muslims, Im going to break it down even more inshAllah. You know I always have to put my two cents in!

*Warning* I will speak the truth and not sugar coat it, because sugar coating just leads to lame excuses.

This needs to be made clear- any touching (touching that you do on purpose, not bumping into someone by mistake or such) is haram, point blank. There's this little joke that I heard about touching it goes something like this..."Looking leads to talking, talking leads to hugging, hugging leads to kissing, kissing leads to fore play, fore play leads know the rest". I did not receive this joke from a Muslim, so that should be something for us Muslims to really think about since we are "suppose" to be the best of all followers of religions.

So do not think your getting away with anything just because you did not have "actual" sexual intercourse. Stop kidding yourself and saying "Oh we didn't do it do it, we just messed around." ITS THE SAME THING! Sorry I had to point this out due to the fact that there's plenty of people who think that the are not sinning or its not "that bad" because they did not " put the key in the key hole". Any touching is forbidden and it is all sinful. Do not let this society's standards of what is "bad" confuse or stray you away from what Allah subhana wa ta'la was made halal and haram. I understand that sometimes it can be confusing on what is allowed if were not educated in such matters and see those actions as a common thing especially amongst your fellow Muslims. But even if you see your fellow Muslims doing an action, ask yourself if you can tell your parents or anyone that you have respect for what you are doing. Ask yourself if you could be calm confessing to what those actions on the Day of Judgment; I think we all know the answer. So if you had to hide your actions then you know its wrong. And don't follow others in wrongful doing, because they won't be able to take the rap for you when it comes to reality of your sins.

Another reminder for us (myself and all of you): We have prohibitions for a reason, and wallah they are there to protect ourselves. When we don't follow what Allah subhan wa ta'la has prescribed for us we're just harming ourselves. You may not see the injuries immediately but they are going to come sooner or later. Some of us may get off with slight scars and others may have deep wounds from their sins. You have get these scars here in this dunya or you may pay for your sins in the here after. And all of you know that is far way better to pay for your sin here in this life than the next for its way too harsh for us to really grasp. So please do yourself a favor, stay away from sinful acts. You may think that what your doing is fun, and its not harming anyone else, but indeed you are. What you do influences others, point blank, whether you want to be a role model or not you are. People will look to you for advice, will look to you for what is acceptable, and etc. And quite frankly, this is why we have so much finta because people are following those in error and think that its acceptable when its not. It will become easier to do right when we put forth the effort to show others what is right. When you become better on the deen others will follow, and then before you know it you'll be surrounded by others who will make following the deen easier. Be the one to be the role model, take the first step, be the one to make a difference and please Allah!

May Allah continue to guide us on the right path. Ameen

P.S. Following the right path isn't that hard if you really want to achieve true happiness.


Anonymous said...

jazakallah sis for puttin this up..soo many girls at my school dont no this kind of thing lol n theyr muslim n hav boyfrends n all tht thts y im gonna do a post (inshallah)later on on my blog about this issue to help them.. u dont mind if i use this post that u rote do u??

here is the intro to my hitla project:

so dar i think the votes r goin mainl towards relationships i.e. boy/galfrinds in islam

jazakallah sis 4 putting this up..inshallah u will help my generation wid dis. said...


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